Set Your Boundaries
Do you feel like people take advantage of your work ethic and kindness? Do you feel as if no one respects your time and your priorities? Are you a people pleaser? Do you go out of your way to complete tasks for others? Do you think people have "used" you in the past and you have not received what you deserve in return?
YEAH ME TOO, BIG TIME! One of my goals in the past few years has been to SET MY BOUNDARIES to avoid being taken advantage of. Now there are a lot of different types of boundaries that you have to create expectations for in any part of your life. As an entrepreneur there are boundaries for your business or service, in a career there are boundaries for what you need from a job and in relationships you need to establish what you want and deserve. I will try and relate this to ANY of these parts of your life because these types of boundaries can apply to all aspects of our lives.
1.) Time
Time is precious and we all get the same 24 hours in one day, therefore it is up to us how we spend our time. We need to establish our priorities for each day and then see what we have room left for. One of my BIGGEST mistakes as a "people pleaser" has been committing to things I don't have time for or sacrificing my own priorities to put other people's needs before mine. This isn't an easy habit to change. It takes practice and commitment to yourself to ensure that you are making YOUR priorities a non-negotiable. I have learned to set my time boundaries because no one is going to take care of me, except me! I am in control of what I make time for and you better believe I need time everyday to take care of my health and wellness before I commit to anything else. I have also over-worked myself because I wanted to "save the day." I maybe saved the day for someone else, but it did not serve me and my own happiness.
2.) Value
This is a heavy one my friends! It can be very difficult to come to terms with yourself on your value. This can be in a relationship, job or in business. The most difficult question you can ask yourself is, "What do I deserve?Once you can establish what you need and want, you can come to a conclusion of what you deserve. This can be a long process to establish some high class self-worth, but if you don't want to be taken advantage of in your life you NEED to know your worth and value! You determine how others will treat you because YOU decide what you will accept as the gold standard for your life. I am still in the growing process in changing my life to stop settling for just "okay," and aiming for "amazing."
WHY DO WE SETTLE?! We settle for okay, because there's a part of us that doesn't believe that we deserve AMAZING. Some of us have a false belief that enjoying our work is selfish, having money is greedy and we need to run ourselves into the ground to feel worthy or a reward. We do not have to live like this! The world wants you to enjoy your life so you can share your gifts and joy with others. This is a really tough lesson to learn and uncomfortable to accept at first, but work on it...trust me.
3.) Respect
Do you want more respect from people? Of course, we all want respect. To gain respect, we also have to give it. It can be as easy as being polite, kind and compassionate with someone. Most of the time, they will respond back with a good attitude. Are you letting people disrespect you? None of us like to hear that we allow someone to disrespect us, but did we stand up for ourselves? Did we set our expectations, did we follow through with the consequence when they did not meet the expectation or cross our boundaries? As a woman it can be difficult to stick to our guns. When men set their boundaries, we expect them to be firm and authoritative. A woman could say the exact same thing and people would think she was being abrasive or insensitive. As women, we need to follow through with the consequence or people will continue to disrespect us over and over again. Stand your ground and let people know you mean business. Once you lay down your expectations, don't let there be grey area and do not let people convince you otherwise. You know your worth and you only need people in your life who will respect you.
That is it for today! Reflect on how you can start setting some boundaries in your own life to be happier and increase your self worth to 100% :)
Kelsey xo
1.) Time
Time is precious and we all get the same 24 hours in one day, therefore it is up to us how we spend our time. We need to establish our priorities for each day and then see what we have room left for. One of my BIGGEST mistakes as a "people pleaser" has been committing to things I don't have time for or sacrificing my own priorities to put other people's needs before mine. This isn't an easy habit to change. It takes practice and commitment to yourself to ensure that you are making YOUR priorities a non-negotiable. I have learned to set my time boundaries because no one is going to take care of me, except me! I am in control of what I make time for and you better believe I need time everyday to take care of my health and wellness before I commit to anything else. I have also over-worked myself because I wanted to "save the day." I maybe saved the day for someone else, but it did not serve me and my own happiness.
2.) Value
This is a heavy one my friends! It can be very difficult to come to terms with yourself on your value. This can be in a relationship, job or in business. The most difficult question you can ask yourself is, "What do I deserve?Once you can establish what you need and want, you can come to a conclusion of what you deserve. This can be a long process to establish some high class self-worth, but if you don't want to be taken advantage of in your life you NEED to know your worth and value! You determine how others will treat you because YOU decide what you will accept as the gold standard for your life. I am still in the growing process in changing my life to stop settling for just "okay," and aiming for "amazing."
WHY DO WE SETTLE?! We settle for okay, because there's a part of us that doesn't believe that we deserve AMAZING. Some of us have a false belief that enjoying our work is selfish, having money is greedy and we need to run ourselves into the ground to feel worthy or a reward. We do not have to live like this! The world wants you to enjoy your life so you can share your gifts and joy with others. This is a really tough lesson to learn and uncomfortable to accept at first, but work on it...trust me.
3.) Respect
Do you want more respect from people? Of course, we all want respect. To gain respect, we also have to give it. It can be as easy as being polite, kind and compassionate with someone. Most of the time, they will respond back with a good attitude. Are you letting people disrespect you? None of us like to hear that we allow someone to disrespect us, but did we stand up for ourselves? Did we set our expectations, did we follow through with the consequence when they did not meet the expectation or cross our boundaries? As a woman it can be difficult to stick to our guns. When men set their boundaries, we expect them to be firm and authoritative. A woman could say the exact same thing and people would think she was being abrasive or insensitive. As women, we need to follow through with the consequence or people will continue to disrespect us over and over again. Stand your ground and let people know you mean business. Once you lay down your expectations, don't let there be grey area and do not let people convince you otherwise. You know your worth and you only need people in your life who will respect you.
That is it for today! Reflect on how you can start setting some boundaries in your own life to be happier and increase your self worth to 100% :)
Kelsey xo
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